You Could Lose Me to Drugs or Alcohol

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Don’t think it won’t happen to your child. Youth who are involved in drugs are reporting that they start with tobacco and alcohol and elementary and middle school. Prevention should start with parents. Don’t assume they know your beliefs and values about not using drugs.

The good news is that parents have a major influence in their child’s life. According to the Office of National Drug Control Policy, research has shown that two-thirds of teens say that losing their parents’ respect and pride is one of the main reason they don’t use drugs. You matter and can make a difference. Some suggestions we have are:

1. Plan “together time.” This does not need to be something that costs money. Your time is more valuable. Watching “their” TV shows will give opportunities. Playing “their” video games is another idea. How about their music? There are websites where you can find the lyrics to their music.
2. Eat meals together. Research shows that eating at least 5 meals together a week as a family decreases the risk of your child engaging in risk behaviors. These do not need to “fancy” meals. It is the time that is important.
3. Listen. Ask questions and be willing to hear the answers.
4. Talk. Do this often and when there is not a crisis. Times like driving in the car, taking a walk. Look for the times to talk and make it happen.
5. Look for the teachable moments. For example, we cannot shelter them from all the media influences, but we can help them navigate them.
6. Use open questions/statements. Some: “What do you think?’ “That’s a good question.” “Help me understand.”
7. Give honest answers. If you don’t know the answers, tell them you will find out.
8. Role play with your child. This may be one of the most important things you can do. If they are prepared to handle a situation before it happens, the better they will be able to avoid drugs.
9. Be clear about your values. Again, don’t assume they know how disappointed you would be if they used drugs, tell them.
10. Set limits. This is better to do early on. Don’t wait until a problem happens.